๐ŸŒฟ๐ŸŒฟ Did you grow up with "tough love" too? ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

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The past 5 months have seen us challenging all semblance of normalcy by giving up nearly every familiar moment in our everyday lives: leisurely outdoor strolls, in-person collaboration, even hugging our loved ones.

Yet these challenges are minor compared to the struggles of those who arenโ€™t as privileged, to the point that some people have gone viral simply by rising to the occasion.

While I love that some folks are doing what they can for others, I find it a little sad that weโ€™ve reached a point where we celebrate individuals for doing whatโ€™s right โ€” it just means it happens so rarely. And kindness should be the norm.

People constantly joke about how later generations are too soft or sensitive, inventing various reasons to justify not helping others. This relative indifference isnโ€™t new: despite the words โ€œlove thy neighborโ€ being a big part of many peopleโ€™s childhoods, weโ€™re actually used to kindness not being the knee-jerk response.

โ€œHuman kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough.โ€
โ€” Franklin D. Roosevelt

Many of us grew up with and were shaped by whatโ€™s commonly called โ€œtough loveโ€. Kindness and warmth was earned instead of freely given; those who didnโ€™t receive it supposedly didnโ€™t try hard enough, or werenโ€™t blessed enough.

We now know better, of course. But change doesnโ€™t happen overnight; it takes time to unlearn negative responses and toxic behaviors.

One thing we can commit to doing is to mindfully and proactively choose better ways to engage others: listen before speaking, practice kindness over self-preservation, and choose to do things that benefit more than ourselves.

When we choose to be better, to be kind, to be mindful, we present the next generation with a blueprint for how to one day continue where we leave off โ€” a legacy, if you will, of choosing warmth and kindness first.

Have you been practicing the ability to choose better for yourself and for others? Iโ€™d love to hear your kindness stories โ€” perhaps I can learn from you, too!


Theresa Carbonel-Buenaflor
Founder, Ellana Mineral Cosmetics


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